Of Course Looks Matter… Are You $#$!)@$??

Todd Attraction, Conversation Skills, Entitlement, Female Psychology, Inner Game, Motivation

There is an idea repeated endlessly in the pickup community that “looks don’t matter.” What a load of horse shit! Of course looks matter. The real question is HOW MUCH do looks matter, and WHY do pickup coaches want you to believe that they don’t? You want evidence looks matter… okay, here you go: Obviously GETTING APPROACHED by girls makes the game a lot easier. But it’s not the whole story. I remember a friend I once had in Hollywood, who was very good looking. …

Why I Think “Hustle” Is Overrated and What I Use Instead…

Todd Inner Game, Motivation, Outer Game, Winner Game

Full disclosure: This article isn’t just about getting girls. In fact this applies to basically any area of your life that you want to conquer. Gym. Business. Pokemon Go. Whatever. But for now I’m going to talk about my area of expertise: getting girls. When I first found out about the game community at the age of 18, (when I was a virgin), I almost immediately fell in love with the very concept. I dove in hard. After some suffering and confusion at the beginning, I …

Does It Feel Empty? How To Find Meaning In Pickup And Beyond

Todd Life/Business/Health, Motivation, Self-Help, Winner Game

Let’s talk about something deep. Like “meaning of life” deep… and I’m actually not kidding. But I’m not talking about some woo-woo-fairy-crystals-save-the-whales bullshit… I’m talking about something more like what you see mentioned in this clip from the movie “Without Limits”: “If you can find meaning in running chances are you’ll find meaning in life.” See I’ve always hated nebulous self-help and I’ve always loved taking action and competing. More to the point, I’ve always found a lot of meaning in the things you learn, …

Up The Ante: What Poker Teaches Us About Good Game

Todd Escalation, Friend Zone, Intent, Life/Business/Health, Motivation, Outer Game, Self-Help, Winner Game

In my life, I’ve learned a lot from games; specifically games that combine skill and chance. Three of my favorites are poker, Monopoly and, of course, pickup. Luck plays a big part in each of these endeavors, so at times your fate seems out of your hands. Drawing bad cards, landing on a hotel-covered Boardwalk, opening four straight girls who have fiancés…it can make you pull your hair out. True, there’s a lot we can’t control—in the short run. But don’t forget the long game. …

Exploring Excellence: The Filipino Billiards Factory

Todd Life/Business/Health, Motivation, Winner Game

Last week I took a four-day vacation, which is something I really haven’t done in years, but my vacation wasn’t what you typically think of as a vacation. I’m a huge fan of excellence in all forms, and I’m also a huge lover of the game of pool. So I took four days out of my Asia tour to seek out lessons from a top Filipino coach. It was difficult to find the place I was looking for, but my search eventually lead me to Star Billiards …

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How To “Stand Tall” In Game

Todd Inner Game, Motivation, Self-Help

The other day I found myself on a plane… as usual… but for once I wasn’t so sleep deprived as to make me fall immediately into a comatose sleep.  So my next thought was to be productive.  That thought quickly passed. Instead I turned my attention to the movie menu.  After briefly flirting with some empty-mental-calorie action flicks, I settled upon a sports title, “When The Game Stands Tall”.  It’s the story of the longest winning streak in sports history—ending.  I’m a big believer in …

One Of Those Life Moments

Todd Entitlement, Inner Game, Life/Business/Health, Motivation

If you’ve been following me closely, you’ll know that I’ve just completed the launch of my Daygame product.  If you didn’t know that, it’s a testament to the fact that I’ve really let my blogging slip.  It was the biggest launch of my career and it wasn’t even mentioned on my own blog until the day before the launch… OOPS! So clearly I need to be blogging more.  I also need to be doing a better job with my social media and marketing in general. …

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How To Find Your Passion – A Motivational Guide

Todd Inner Game, Motivation

The quickest way to find your passion is to first know what passion looks like. Without a clear view of exactly where you’re supposed to be heading, you could simply think a mild interest in a hobby, woman, or business venture will lead you to major success. Certainly consumerist culture seems to think so. But true, consistent, and unyielding passion is something much deeper and much more long-lasting than a billboard sign of the “get rich quick” type. The Number One Trait of Success What do you …

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Cure Loneliness After A Breakup – A Rational Approach

Todd Inner Game, Motivation

Over the course of a dating coach’s career, one of the most common tasks is to teach men how to cure loneliness after a breakup. Now, as men we like logical answers to even our emotional problems, and so perhaps the best way to attack the scourge of neediness after a bad breakup is with a rational breakdown… and that’s exactly what we’re going to do today. You Are Not Going To Run Out Of Girls Let me ask you a question. How many people are there …

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Remotivation To Game – How To Get Yourself Out of a Pit of Negativity

Todd Inner Game, Motivation

As Memorial Day approaches, it makes me reflect on the oncoming lower-consciousness thoughts, doubt, and pit of negativity that might come with a weekend of excess. You know the ones – bachelor party, Mardi Gras, New Years’ – everything from strip clubs, bottle service, shooting guns, drunken golf, skydiving, whatever your pleasure. As an instructor is basically impossible to party that hard anymore, and when it does happen, it can take three days to fully recover and get back into productivity mode. How You Here in the …