Sexual Intent – How To Show Her You Have A Penis

JP Attraction, Conversation Skills, Daygame, Escalation, Female Psychology, Inner Game, Intent, Lay Report, Outer Game, Physical Escalation, State

What’s up guys? I’m JP, one of Todd’s coaches, and I’ve been working with him for about a year and half now. Let me be the first to say that it’s been a hell of a ride, and it seems like every other day something crazy or out of the ordinary is happening. Through these articles I’ll be able to tell you all the stories, field reports, and lessons that have helped me over the course of my time in game, and I hope you will be able to take your own lessons in order to learn and improve your game. So let’s get right into it, shall we?

One of the biggest mistakes I continue to see is that guys aren’t able to express their sexual desires to women without feeling weird about it—and trust me, women pick up on this nervousness and avoid it like the plague! Many guys treat women as if they’re going to punch them in the face for calling them cute or sexy. This couldn’t be further from the truth. What these guys fail to realize is that most women are waiting for—and some even fantasize about—the right guy coming along and sweeping them off their feet and taking them home. You can be that guy if you convey that sex is no big deal to you and that you wont judge her.

To convey this point, I’m going to tell you guys a story about one of the many times I went out and did daygame. I was walking around, when I noticed this cute little Latina with an amazing body just wandering around a shopping center I usually frequent. One of the biggest approach signals I tell guys to look for is a girl walking slowly and looking around as if she has nothing to do. These girls are the ones who I know with almost complete certainty I can make something happen with. Anyways, I saw this amazing girl, and immediately I felt myself pulled toward her. 

  I remember feeling an intense urge to approach. I’d been busy with work and had just left the gym, and I hadn’t had sex in about two weeks and was feeling pretty horny. I approached her and was extremely into it and didn’t mind showing this to her. I looked her up and down with a slight smile, and my eye contact was impeccable! I began using sexual humor and teasing her, telling her how sexy she looked and asking her if she came out looking that sexy because she knew that today was the day she was going to meet me.

She immediately responded to me by acting in a submissive way that drove me insane! She began to giggle and give me the “fuck me eyes.” I could tell that the sexual tension between us was extremely high and she was into it (something that comes with time and practice). So I asked her, “What are you up to right now?” and I was almost certain that had I approached in a less sexual way or if I had tried to be nice and polite, she would’ve told me that she had a boyfriend or that she simply had somewhere to be, but she didn’t. She ended up telling me she had nothing to do and that she was just bored, “walking around, trying to find some clothes.” BINGO. I asked her to join me for a quick coffee, and off we went.

When the girl told me she had nothing on her schedule, I just assumed she was completely into me. The hard part was done. Whether I was right or wrong, who knows, but it was more in my favor to believe she loved me. 😉 Mind you, I was only about 45 seconds into the set. I didn’t know her name, a single fact about her, or where she was from, yet we were walking side by side to a coffee shop. This is something you can do as well, as long as you convey to the girk that you’re comfortable with her acting in a sexual way without judging her.

Why is this? It’s pretty simple: women and men are sexual creatures who want to act in sexual ways. Girls probably more so than men, actually, but when they do, they’re judged harshly by society. Long ago, a woman known for sleeping around would be cast out of the tribe, and her chances of survival would then be zero. So today it makes sense for a girl not to want to act sexually toward someone who’s treating her like she’s some perfect little angel.

This is why it’s also very important for YOU to lead the interaction (a topic I’ll write about in more detail soon): the girl sure as hell isn’t going to. It’s up to you! And trust me, she’ll be thanking you at the end of the night for being better than 99 percent of the guys who approach her and try to come off as polite and with no intentions of having sex with her. It’s these guys who usually end up in the friend zone, but, luckily for you, you now know how to avoid it.

“If you want to sleep with her, show her you have a penis.”

  Now does this mean I go up to every single woman and approach her like a caveman without any self-control? No, of course not (although some guys would actually benefit from that). I calibrate to every single girl I approach. Understand that every single girl who you approach has a different upbringing, and every single girl has her own story. NOT EVERY GIRL IS THE SAME! This approach won’t work for every girl, and I’m actually glad it doesn’t. 

One of the best ways I’ve seen guys learn anything in game is to go way overboard with a technique and then learn where they’ve crossed that line and take a step back—also known as calibration. Usually, this is why guys who have slept with a lot of women are better at conveying certain sexual attributes than newer guys. They simply know what they can get away with.

So for you guys who are new to game, my advice to you is this: take it a step further than you’re comfortable with. I can almost guarantee that you won’t be acting nearly as sexual as you can get away with. Well, how do I know when I’ve gone too far, you may ask? I can usually tell a girl isn’t comfortable with the sexual tension in the interaction when she starts giving certain body language signals. These may include:

  • • She takes a slight step back
  • • She gives you a concerned look (the look you would give to a situation you didn’t understand)
  • • She immediately rejects you

What are some signs she likes it? Here’s what to look out for:

  • She’s very comfortable holding eye contact
  • She’s giggling uncontrollably
  • She’s playing along and teasing you
  • She seems slightly nervous (the good kind of nervous)
  • She asks you questions about yourself

Give my advice in this article a try—and watch your results skyrocket! I’ll write to you guys again soon, so if you have any questions about game, comment below and I’ll pick out the best ones and answer those. Good luck being sexual. And remember: show her you have a penis! 😉